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My Recovery Journey: I Won't Let The Past Be Erased
On August 20, 2025, my ex-husband will ask the court to expunge his domestic violence conviction. I am sharing my story as a survivor, advocate, and truth-teller to oppose the erasure of what happened to me—and to speak out for those who are still silenced. Justice shouldn't expire, and this is my stand.
heatherbeanoyler
Aug 126 min read


Welcome to My Closet: a Tour
See how I organized my exposed closet in my new loft!
heatherbeanoyler
Mar 135 min read


My Recovery Journey: The Divorce and Trashing the Dress
The divorce in over and my recovery journey is coming to a close through this therapeutic exercise of strength and acceptance.
heatherbeanoyler
Mar 616 min read


Choosing Myself: The Heartache of Divorce, the Hope of Healing, and Valentine’s Day Reflections
Valentine's Day looks different this year, post divorce, and here I am still choosing to choose myself.
heatherbeanoyler
Feb 1310 min read


Survival Mode
How do you survive when life is dragging you down? Here are some helpful tools I have learned to get through--I call it "Survival Mode"
heatherbeanoyler
Nov 7, 20246 min read


Going Home
Going home can mean different things for different people. Here's what it means to me.
heatherbeanoyler
Oct 17, 20246 min read


Friends After Forty and Filling for Divorce
When you start a new relationship, it almost seems like you get a new friend group built in, but what about when it ends? You end up back in
heatherbeanoyler
Sep 12, 20247 min read


My Recovery Journey: Taking My Life Back
After my abuser made his official Alford Plea at the Peoria County Courthouse, he made a social media post that stated that although he...
heatherbeanoyler
Mar 28, 202424 min read


A Letter to the Woman Who Is Afraid to Live Alone
To the woman who is afraid to live alone, Going through a divorce is something that changes you. It brings up fears and doubt. As you...
heatherbeanoyler
Feb 9, 20246 min read
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